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          Spouse hunting

          Kuiper Beltran, Casanova-in-training

          Issue date: 3/5/10 Section: Focus
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          During the years of college, people traditionally make the transition from young adulthood to slightly less-young adulthood. Definitions of romance begin to shift, and people are faced with the reality of potentially pursuing marriage. Marriage is something that may be nearer in your future than you imagine: The typical American gets married at age 26, then gets married again at age 35, then gets married again at age 43, and marries for the last time at age 55 when they resign themselves to the fact that waiting for their spouse to die of heart disease is easier than filing for another divorce.

          Arranged marriages have gone by the wayside, which is unfortunate when you consider how convenient they were for bride and groom alike. It's also tough to beat partnerships that were deliberately engineered to be the most socially and economically beneficial match for all parties involved (except for possibly the bride and groom). We live in a day and age where parents may interject heavily with regards to matters of spouse selection, but ultimately the responsibility for choosing a partner for life lies with you.

          Probably the biggest hurdle that marriage poses is the commitment that is involved. It can be very romantic and exciting in a, "Wow, I'm really going to spend the rest of my life with this person" kind of way, but it can also be really depressing and horrifying in a, "Wow, I'm really going to spend to spend the rest of my life with this person" kind of way.

          One of the things that you may find jarring about making the transition from "dating" to "courting" is that your value criteria may change drastically. When dating casually, some people seek out partners who they believe are likely to put out without too much investment, which for some people would ideally mean the first date. Someone who is prone to spend freely is someone you can count on to show you a good time. However, these aren't the kind of qualities to whom which you you'd want to wed yourself for the long-term. It doesn't make much sense to make the financial and emotional investment involved with marriage when you are involved with someone who is willing to satisfy your carnal and material wants without making that marital leap. As my father said, "Why buy the cow when you can get a nice filet from Outback for just $21.99?" Also consider that someone who is prone to love and spend freely may carry these habits into marriage, where these qualities might be considered less than desirable.

          It's never too early to begin planning, which is why I've gone and selected a nice mahogany coffin for the day when I'll eventually need it. However, commitment is something that may take time, and starting the search early doesn't necessarily mean finishing it early. Given the numerous hardships involved with matrimony, the final decision and the ceremony itself might be something best postponed until after you've finished with your studies, found a job, and retired. Remember that with age comes wisdom, as well as a constantly shrinking pool of potential spouses, making your decision ever easier.
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