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Handling the aftermath

Dr. Desiree, Sex Therapist

Issue date: 9/25/09 Section: Sex and Dating
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People say they don't kiss and tell, but let's face it, no one's perfect. I would love to see the day that two people hook up without a single extraneous person finding out. No matter how private your private life is, college is an impossible setting to stay under the radar. We have fraternities, sororities, Facebook, Twitter, and roommates. A single photo online will tell all your friends what and whom you were doing last weekend. Frankly, it's a little exhausting.

The great thing about college is the built-in support system that we get from various sources. Whether these are clubs, organizations, or even virtual networking pages, we are allowed the opportunity to expand our circle of peers. It is only natural that by taking advantage of these groups, it becomes increasingly difficult to compartmentalize our lives. Every group of students has their own group-cest and drama. It's amazing how many students I meet who are dating people they have met through their clubs, Greek life, or sports teams.

The old cliché that the football player dates the hot cheerleader is actually pretty true. In high school, I saw the band kids hooking up with each other, jocks hooking up with other jocks, and the drama kids were caught fooling around behind the curtain. College is no different. Naturally, we gravitate to other people who share similar interests. For freshmen, dorm-cest is always a yearly epidemic. Yes it seems convenient and fun, but beware: a semester later, it will usually become really uncomfortable. For upperclassmen, our circle of friends just gets smaller. In fact, I don't even remember the last time any of my friends have hooked up with a total stranger.

For years, we have seen movies and TV shows that depicted the pitfalls of inter-office dating. College is merely a younger version of this. We may try to avoid the judging eyes of our peers. But, when we all live together, even the most hook-up savvy person will face some gossip. So how do we deal with the inevitable?
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