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    Letting it go

    Kali, Sex Goddess

    Issue date: 4/17/09 Section: Sex and Dating
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    The end of another year at Case is quickly approaching. Everyone is in a panic studying for finals, writing papers, and figuring out how to be productive and still find time to relax over the summer. Seniors, especially, are getting ready to say goodbye to college and hello to being grown-ups. Regardless, the end of anything always dredges up old memories as we think about what we've done over this last year of struggling through academics while still maintaining social lives. People say that college is supposed to be the best four years of your life, but if I have anything to say, I'd also throw in there that it seems like the quickest four years. In honor of the end of the year, and in a special nod to seniors who have been through it all, my last bits of advice are ever-optimistic and involve looking back on your romantic life in college so far and forgetting and letting go of the moments of disappointment.

    If you've had your heart broken, I'm sorry. I'd like to say that there are plenty of worse things out there, but breaking up is pretty bad. The hardest thing to do, especially if you were on the receiving end, is to think of your ex in a positive light and remember them for all the nice things you both shared. I know I've certainly had my bitter moments, but I know that you can never leave it to someone else to be the bigger person and extend the hand of friendship first. Try to honor what you had and if you haven't already, ask your ex out to coffee or something and see if you can be friends. If you can't, at least you'll know, and if you can, even if you never really see them again, you'll know that it ended on a positive note.

    If you are single and wish you weren't, you have a whole new year in front of you to try and try again. I would obviously not recommend worrying about it now - you have enough to do already with finals and maybe even graduation coming up. Instead of looking back on it and thinking about how lonely you were/are, try to see it this way: you just had plenty of time to think about who you are, which is precious introspection that many of us rarely find the time and energy to accomplish.

    If you're in a relationship where you will not be able to be with your partner over the summer or in the near future, fret not and just know that if you want it to work out, it will. Obviously, it takes time and dedication to get to a place where a relationship will survive with a lot of time apart, but remember, it's always worth the work if the end result is having someone to care about who cares about you. This could also be a good time to think about where you want the relationship to go in the future and make some big decisions in either direction.

    Whatever your situation, the year is over, so celebrate and don't look back on the bad or worrisome situations you faced. Just remember how much you accomplished and how much better you are for it. Have a great summer!
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