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Sex and Dating: The honeymoon phase

Kali, Sex Goddess

Issue date: 2/27/09 Section: Focus
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Aren't relationships nice? And by that I specifically mean, aren't the beginning of relationships nice? Not that the other parts aren't, but there's something special about the first few weeks or months. Neither you nor your significant other can do wrong; there are usually no fights and arguments, and there are normally lots of presents and affection. I love the honeymoon phase of relationships for that, and I'm pretty sure everyone does. I don't think it's shallow to really milk the feeling of falling in love for all it's worth. Despite the fact that the honeymoon phase eventually wears off and then you have to deal with neuroses beyond your wildest imagination, this week I want to focus on the pure happiness that is a new relationship.

The important thing to remember about being in the honeymoon phase of a relationship is to remember to savor it. Yeah, it seems kind of sad to realistically think of it as temporary, but in order to build the strength of your relationship with time, it'll have to be. We'll get to that a little later. For now though, just enjoy spending time with someone who makes you giddy. Isn't that simple? Well, maybe not. I feel like many of us, myself included, have guilt complexes that prevent us from believing that sometimes we just deserve to be as happy as we possibly can be. Beyond your academic and professional life, beyond your family life, and even beyond your personal life with friends at Case, it's everyone's right to be loved romantically for who they are. So as long as you remember to give as much affection and attention as you receive, try to enjoy that giddy, over-the-moon feeling. It is very rare to so purely adore someone as much as you do when you are just falling in love.

For those of you already past the honeymoon phase in your relationships, fear not! I would like to point out that honeymoon phases are able to be reconstructed after time, no matter where you are in your relationship. You can always promise to treat each other kindly and lovingly and try to recreate the magic. Go to some of the places you went on your first few dates, promise to try to spend at least a little bit of time together as often as possible, and put a little work into remembering why you fell in love in the first place.

And single people, think of what you have to look forward to! This is the time to not think about your past relationships and how badly they ended if you have them lurking in your past. They're not important now. Try to put on your rose-colored glasses and imagine how nice it'll be to finally be treated exactly the way you should be by someone who has your best interests in mind. Yes, most relationships in our lives will not work out, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go in ready and willing to give it everything you have to enjoy the best part of future relationships. Good luck, and have fun!
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