Sex and Dating: Remembering those who matter
Dr. Desiree, Sex Therapist
Issue date: 4/24/09 Section: Focus
It's been quite a year, to say the least. Finals will soon be over, everyone will go back home for another three months, and before you know it, we will all be closer to the end of our college days. For seniors, this is the closing of a certain chapter in life, but also the beginning of something exciting.
Looking back, I have discussed a variety of topics; some have been popular and others were not so much. Being 20 years old is all about experimentation. Maybe some of us had our first one-night stand, fell in love for the first time, or had our heart broken one too many times. College is a training camp for the real world. No matter the situation, at least we can run to our friends for advice and help. We are still young and alive.
If there is one lesson that I have learned, it is to cherish my friendships. Lovers will come and go. Friends are there for life. There are some friends that I have lost touch with, ones that I fought with, and of course the ex who I'm not even talking to. In an ideal world, we can forgive and forget whatever hard feelings may be in a friendship gone awry. Even if there is a certain person you are no longer close to that you may miss, at least there are the memories to hold onto.
Having my friends there for me this year has helped through some really difficult times. They listened to me complain about crushes, the boyfriend, the breakup, and then being single. Then again, that's what friends are for; you never know when you may need them, or when they may need you. So often, we are either consumed with a relationship, the possibility of a relationship, or the ending of one. We forget about the other people we love. Sometimes having and being a friend is just as hard as having a significant other. They need work, too. Even though there may be some fights, most of the time they have our best interests at heart. If they dish out advice we don't want to hear, it's probably coming from a caring and concerned place.
Once the last test is over, and we rush off to have hot summer romances or deal with long distance, we should all take a moment to appreciate those around us. No matter how strong we may appear, we can't do it alone. When our families are miles away, roommates, sorority sisters, and classmates fill that void. Relationships aren't always romantic. We need to remember to cherish the ones that aren't.
Interested in writing biweekly for Sex and Dating? Contact als66@case.edu for details.
Looking back, I have discussed a variety of topics; some have been popular and others were not so much. Being 20 years old is all about experimentation. Maybe some of us had our first one-night stand, fell in love for the first time, or had our heart broken one too many times. College is a training camp for the real world. No matter the situation, at least we can run to our friends for advice and help. We are still young and alive.
If there is one lesson that I have learned, it is to cherish my friendships. Lovers will come and go. Friends are there for life. There are some friends that I have lost touch with, ones that I fought with, and of course the ex who I'm not even talking to. In an ideal world, we can forgive and forget whatever hard feelings may be in a friendship gone awry. Even if there is a certain person you are no longer close to that you may miss, at least there are the memories to hold onto.
Having my friends there for me this year has helped through some really difficult times. They listened to me complain about crushes, the boyfriend, the breakup, and then being single. Then again, that's what friends are for; you never know when you may need them, or when they may need you. So often, we are either consumed with a relationship, the possibility of a relationship, or the ending of one. We forget about the other people we love. Sometimes having and being a friend is just as hard as having a significant other. They need work, too. Even though there may be some fights, most of the time they have our best interests at heart. If they dish out advice we don't want to hear, it's probably coming from a caring and concerned place.
Once the last test is over, and we rush off to have hot summer romances or deal with long distance, we should all take a moment to appreciate those around us. No matter how strong we may appear, we can't do it alone. When our families are miles away, roommates, sorority sisters, and classmates fill that void. Relationships aren't always romantic. We need to remember to cherish the ones that aren't.
Interested in writing biweekly for Sex and Dating? Contact als66@case.edu for details.
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